It used to be that mystery and intrigue were something to be regarded as fashionable. The discussion of emotions, and feelings were something that made people uncomfortable, and were thought of as a weakness. Everyone had the same struggles, and talking about it, was viewed as complaining. No one liked a constant complainer. Have we improved as a society, by exposing our lives as an open book for anyone to read or watch? Does the old adage of "suck it up" have any validity?
As people and times have changed, so has the concept of mystery. Everything is reality. No longer do people want to remain a part of the safe interior, they want to be the stand out; they want their 15 minutes of fame. They will let go of intrigue, they will let go of mystery, and expose it for the thrill of attention. Intellect has died and the imbecilic attitude is the prevailing breeze. No longer do people enjoy reading and quiet contemplation, they want instant gratification and acceptance. Certainly, the winds will change, the winds always do; but what should we make of this new found "look at me" attitude? Is there any redemption to be found in facebooking and twittering our inner most desires, and private observances? Are we any happier after exposing ourselves?
I would argue that we have fallen into a deep pit, and people's voracious appetite for attention and exposure will lead to numbness. If there is acceptance of every desire and emotion, morality could be lost. Does mystery and intrigue compliment morality, or is blatant honesty and unfiltered rhetoric the new morality? At some point, will we, as a society, realize we have gone too far in our discussion of philosophy, and desire to return to simplicity and modesty?
I have been pondering this topic, as I explore the world of blogging. There was a recent article, in the local paper, about whether or not parenting blogs have made it easier for parents, or more stressful. The article supported the networking of people with common circumstances, as a social support group. But, I have had the distinct feeling, that it is the quiet, and underlying need for acceptance, that drives many people to expose their thoughts, and lives. Of course, acceptance is something people strive for, but the constant and immediate need for acceptance can become an obsession. An unhealthy obsession that could lead to regret.
The thoughts of the moment, are sometimes better left unsaid. If people change and evolve in their thoughts, then the permanent record of our past statements will always remind us of who we once were. What if that person has changed, will the accumulation of tweets and facebooking make this evolution impossible? I think so. I think it will make us wonder, "what we were thinking", and wish we could erase some of our remarks. It will be impossible to erase; it will be a permanent record for all to read and see. When I watch reality TV, I think: "thank god my adolescence was not documented", that person will regret this exposure someday. When I read a parenting blog, and the writer expresses a negative feeling for their child, or questioning their parenting skills, I think: "I hope their kids don't read that later on, they will think their parents hated them".
I wonder if the veterans of the World Wars and Vietnam and Korea would have been better off by having a sounding board for their experiences. I suppose this will be a topic of great discussion for the present day soldiers. What will the outcome of their open discussion have on their psyche in the the future? At some point, I have to believe, there is validity to "sucking it up", and keeping our emotions off the record. Leave the past, in the past, and live in the moment of now. Quiet reflection is a powerful healer. It is a difficult practice, to quietly reflect upon our lives; but, it does have the benefit of remaining private. In that privacy, there is no requirement for acceptance of others, but simply an acceptance of ourselves.
What is your opinion: should some things remain a mystery?